I have a fridge magnet that says, “I will not obsess. I will not obsess. I will not obsess.” It’s a funny reminder that negative, repetitive internal dialogue does not relieve distress. Sure, pondering something troubling might help you find a solution, or convince you, upon reflection, that you did the right thing. However, dwelling upon a problem without making any progress towards solving it is called rumination.

Rumination can raise blood pressure, lead to negative coping mechanisms such as binge eating, and elevate levels of the stress hormone cortisol—which in turn is linked to increased tummy fat. In addition, it reduces the ability to concentrate—not good at work.

Once you notice such intrusive thoughts, try distracting yourself mentally or physically. Chat with an upbeat friend. Write in a journal. Be particularly mindful of what’s going on around you right now, not the past.

Experts suggest replacing negative self-talk. Say “Stop!” silently or aloud when you start brooding, and repeat a positive affirmation such as “I am at peace now.” Or turn “I can’t deal with this!” into the proactive question “How can I handle this?”

Another technique? Set aside some worry time for the end of the day. Just don’t obsess if you forget to do so!

Namaste.